There is a lot of noise right now around COVID 19 and you are probably finding yourself in one of three categories:
1.) totally emerged in the happenings, tracking daily broadcasts from your local and national officials and/or news, 2.) totally disengaged and over it or 3.) somewhere in the middle where you what to keep abreast but not over indulging or be plagued by fear and anxiety of the unknown. Regardless of what side of the aisle you are on, I wanted to take this time to provide you some additional resources that are focused on single issues.
What I know to be true, is times like this you may be tempted to jump back on the dating app, update your dating profile and put yourself out there. After all it has been a minute. First let me say, being off the market or simply getting out a toxic relationship doesn't qualify you nor prepare you for a healthy relationship. There is a time for all this but before you do that, do these things first.
1.) Self-reflect: Spend some time in self-reflection. Who have you dating in the past, why did you date that person? Who are you? What do you want? Are you the person you want to attract? Do you need outside support? If so, what type of support do you need?
2.) Self-growth: Emotional, spiritual, financial, social and mental are five of twelve core growth areas. Pick spiritual and one other category you are committed to your personal growth. What is something you can do for the next 21 days to grow in this area. I say spiritual as it is the only area that has the potential to help you grow in all other areas and it should be your foundation. During this time, make sure social distancing doesn't mean emotional distancing. Write a list of ten people you want to connect with and start reaching out to them to foster those relationships. Let me be clear, these are relationships with people ideally of the same-sex and purely platonic. Think of three people you can reach across to, these are people who are at the level you are in the above area; reach up to three people who are already where you want to be and be sure to reach down to help three people who want to be where you are.
Psalm 127: 1 Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Another way to say it, is you can allow God to lead your path, are you can drive yourself. With that said, this would be a good time to start a spiritual fast for at least 10 preferable 21 days. The Daniel Fast is always a good one, or fasting until noon or implementing intermitting fasting like only eating 12PM to 7PM.
3.) Self-love: Self-love comes in all different shapes and sizes. Definitely consider being "quarantined" or practicing social distance as part of your self love strategy. Here are a few other self-love strategies. Also consider this as giving others the gift of love and for some even life by keeping those who are most vulnerable self be it your parents, grandparents, your neighbor or those in your community.
a.) Spend daily time with God to include time in prayer and Bible reading
b.) Workout via Facebook Live or on YouTube at least four days a week or take a walk in your neighborhood if you can practice the 6 to 10 feet social distancing recommendations.
c..) Prepare healthy meals and snacks daily (and don't over spend in the grocery store. Save your money. The stores aren't going anywhere).
d.) Drink half your body weight in water
e.) Take Airborne or Vitamin C daily
f.) Get at least seven hours of sleep. This builds your immune system
g.) Pamper yourself with a self massage, in home massage, pedicure and/or spa
This is your COVID 19 Singles Survivor Kit part I. Part II will be release next Thursday at 9PM EST in the Single, Successful and Dating for Marriage Facebook group. In the meantime, please take a moment to complete my short survey so I can get some helpful resources for you. Click here to access the survey.
Jill Bulluck, Your Sister in the Journey of Healthy Happy Love
P.S. Be sure to join our Singles Saturday Sunrise prayer every Saturday morning at 7:05AM inside the Facebook group.